A recurring theme in the Tao Te Ching is the idea that the sage avoids extremes. This ancient wisdom, while timeless, often feels drowned out in the noise of today’s world.

Rather than accepting life as it unfolds and seeking fulfillment within, we’ve become fixated on external solutions. When life falls short of our expectations, we cast blame outward. If we’re dissatisfied with our circumstances, we long for vast wealth or power to change our reality.

Years ago, I helped launch a fitness franchise. It was a rewarding experience, but one that opened my eyes to something surprising: people often resist what's good for them.

Day after day, I’d watch people walk into the gym, pour out heartfelt reasons for wanting to get healthy—doctors' warnings, family motivations, personal goals—but still walk away without signing up. Meanwhile, across the street, the fast-food drive-thru was packed. No hesitation, no internal struggle—just instant gratification.

When life doesn’t go as planned, it’s easy to external aspects. But the truth is, our outcomes are often shaped by something far more personal: our habits.

Years ago I had to terminate employment for someone I worked with for a while. They had gotten to a point where they angered many people in the organization and acted like an unprofessional brat when things didn’t go their way. Despite our repeated attempts to correct the behavior and let them know of the seriousness, they kept falling on bad habits, responding with anger and conflict instead of understanding and improvement. When we let them go, they blamed everyone else, stating it was other’s stupidity that caused their reaction, so they shouldn’t be accountable for it. .

We all understand the power of compound interest: small investments, given enough time, grow exponentially. But this principle doesn’t just apply to finances—it’s equally transformative when applied to habits.

Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement. Small, consistent actions—like drinking more water, walking for 10 minutes, or reading a single page of a book—may feel insignificant today. But over time, they build on each other, creating meaningful, lasting change.

We all long for certainty. We want clear answers, sharp lines, and obvious choices. But life isn’t made of black and white — it’s painted in shades of grey.

Learning to move forward without all the answers is one of the most powerful skills you can build.

It’s easy to act on impulse without considering the long-term consequences. Whether it’s snapping at your boss, ignoring a friend, or making a financial move you can't afford, these choices can have lasting effects.

When working toward a goal, the process you use is just as important as the goal itself. A strong system can keep you on track and help you make consistent progress. The key? Make sure your system is simple, sticky, and self-regulating.

Too often, we drift through life on autopilot, making choices by default and blaming others when things go wrong. I lived that way for years—avoiding responsibility, taking what was handed to me, and wondering why life didn’t feel fulfilling. Real change started when I took ownership. I began making intentional decisions, accepting consequences, and carving a path that aligned with what I truly wanted.

If you're looking to improve your life, there's no better place to start than with your habits. By using a systems-and-habits approach, you can intentionally design your days and shape your future—one small choice at a time.

Many people skip this process because they’re chasing quick results. But meaningful change doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time, consistency, and deliberate action. The truth is, most of our lives—up to 95%—are run on autopilot through habits. That’s powerful... but it also means if you don’t shape your habits, they’ll shape themselves.

We live in a world that celebrates speed—microwaves, smartphones, and now AI give us answers, meals, and conveniences in seconds. It’s no wonder patience feels like a lost art.

But improvement? True, lasting growth? That still takes time.

Habits are more than just the routines that get us through the day—they’re a way to harness the power of time. Every small action, repeated consistently, compounds over weeks, months, and years to create massive results. When you build the right habits, you’re not just working toward your goals—you’re enlisting time as your ally.

Humans have been leveraging habits for as long as we’ve existed. Our brains are wired to conserve energy by creating automatic responses to repetitive tasks. When we brush our teeth or drive to work, we rely on habitual patterns rather than conscious decision-making. This frees our minds to focus on other things, allowing us to operate efficiently without constant thought directing every step.

Life has a way of pulling us in different directions. We set goals, create plans, and chase success, all while feeling like we’re never quite there. But what if the solution isn’t out there somewhere? What if the key to achieving more—and feeling fulfilled while doing it—is to stop chasing and start being present?

Wayne Dyer said it best: “Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.” It’s a simple idea but incredibly powerful when you truly embrace it. Instead of looking at life as a series of milestones you need to hit, shift your focus to the here and now. That’s where real progress happens.

“Done is better than perfect,” says Sheryl Sandberg, and those five words carry a critical lesson for anyone who struggles with perfectionism. Often, the drive to get everything exactly right prevents us from making any meaningful progress. We wait, tweak, and obsess over every detail, convinced that the perfect version is just out of reach. But while we wait for perfection, we miss out on opportunities to move forward and grow.

Winston Churchill’s famous line, “Perfection is the enemy of progress,” highlights this same truth. Perfectionism can feel like a noble pursuit, but in reality, it often stifles action and leaves us stuck in place. Real growth doesn’t come from flawless execution; it comes from consistent, intentional effort.

A friend recently shared his frustration: his company replaced one toxic employee with… another toxic employee. Both brilliant. Both jerks. The irony? The company had explicitly vowed to do better.

This disconnect is more common than we realize—and it highlights the difference between explicit and implicit goals.

"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." This quote by Robert Collier perfectly captures the essence of building effective habits. The secret to long-term success isn’t bursts of motivation or fleeting inspiration—it’s consistency. And one of the best ways to achieve consistency is by using systems.

A system is a structured process designed to help you achieve your goals, step by step. When you rely on systems, you create an environment where your habits can grow naturally, without the constant need for willpower or motivation. Instead of wrestling with whether you "feel like it" today, a good system ensures that the right actions happen automatically.